Yes. Each of you keeps the right to stop the collaborative process if it is not working well for her or him. It is in each person’s interest to behave so that the process is fair and considerate of the other party. Thus, in collaborative law it is counter-productive to use tactics such as intimidation, withholding information or being uncooperative, because these tactics will simply cause the process to fall apart. When the process is stopped, the collaborative attorneys will withdraw. Either party may initiate court action. We have found that most people prefer to reach a successful conclusion of the process and few want to withdraw.

Each case is unique, but typically, the collaborative approach may cost one third to one half as much as if the same case had gone to court. This is because there are no court motions or hearings, and information is provided voluntarily instead of being extracted through an expensive series of legal demands.

Yes. Financial disclosure must happen fully and voluntarily, and without delay. This requirement is fundamental to the collaborative process. It signals that the parties are willing to be straightforward and avoid game-playing about information. In collaborative practice,  the parties aim for the considerable benefits that flow when information is freely shared rather than concealed. California law requires full disclosure in all divorce cases and imposes serious penalties for hiding assets.

No. Just because you prefer to avoid court battles doesn’t mean you must settle for less. In collaborative practice, we help participants to achieve fair and equitable settlements which focus on their needs, goals, and what is best for everyone the family. You will be given many options to choose from, so you can decide what you want, rather than decisions (which you may not agree with) being made by a judge who doesn’t know you or your priorities. Settlements reached through this collaborative process are generally much more satisfactory and durable than settlements reached on the courthouse steps.

Not at all. Anger is a natural response when our primary relationships change, even if we are unhappy in the relationship ourselves. In collaborative practice, your will receive support and guidance to go through the process of detachment, including the strong feelings—such as grief and anger—that often accompany it. In conventional “no fault” divorces, there is no “official” place to deal with anger or grief, and unresolved feelings may end up fueling fights over topics that should be addressed with mutual interests in mind, topics such as parenting arrangements, cash flow and asset division. In collaborative practice, we help you learn to express emotion in a direct yet respectful way so that each person’s perspectives can be heard and considered.

You may not be able to save your marriage, but you can protect your future and that of your children. Research shows that the method couples choose for pursuing their divorce (non-adversarial or adversarial) will have a powerful impact on the happiness of their post-marriage relationships, including relationships with children and future spouses. It is no surprise that the worst outcomes arise from bitterly litigated divorces. Bad divorces leave a toxic residue that can last a lifetime. Collaborative law offers parties an opportunity for a better outcome and a better future for parents and for children.

Yes. The collaborative process makes it unnecessary to place in the court’s public files documents detailing your personal matters. This is a significant advantage for many high profile couples or those who simply wish to preserve their privacy.

Collaborative law is kind and supportive of both parents and children, and allows them to move through a transition that is already difficult enough, without triggering destructive battling. Mental health experts (called “coaches”) will help in developing a parenting plan, and help you to learn how to deal productively with the other parent for the sake of your children. A neutral child specialist can give the children a safe place to talk about the changes that are happening in the family. The child specialist can offer insights to help parents develop the best plan for their children.

Yes. Your collaborative attorneys will prepare an enforceable legal judgment that will set out the terms of your settlement. You will not need to personally appear in court to finalize the divorce.

LACFLA’s website www.lacfla.org provides a list of members who have been specially trained in the collaborative approach.  Any one of them will be able to sit down with you in a consultation to answer questions and inform you about the collaborative process.

Yes. Each person retains his or her own trained collaborative attorney to advise and assist in negotiating an agreement on all issues. Your attorney informs you of your rights and gives you sound legal advice about your situation. Collaborative divorce attorneys make every effort not to aggravate the tensions that already exist between the parties. Their role is to create a safe environment for your assessment of options and negotiations for resolution.