How to Create a Healthy Post-Divorce Relationship with Your Ex
Divorce is overwhelming, and there’s a sense of wondering if everyday conversations with your ex-spouse will ever be possible again, especially when kids are involved. It can get better, but how divorce is handled makes all the difference. The secret begins with shifting your perspective from focusing on winning and losing to working and collaborating with your ex-spouse.
Traditional court battles create literal opposing sides, with lawyers fighting it out. That “winner takes all” mentality seeps into everything and makes working together later nearly impossible. Former spouses end up as enemies for years to come.
Collaborative divorce is entirely different. Both spouses sit at the same table with divorce professionals who help solve problems together. No courtroom drama, no fighting over who gets what – just two adults working toward solutions that make sense for their family.
The collaborative approach changes everything. When respectful communication is practiced during divorce, those skills tend to stick around afterward. It builds the foundation for whatever relationship comes next.
The focus should start with what both people want – perhaps that’s ensuring kids feel loved and secure, or simply ending things without destroying each other financially. Communication becomes much easier when clear ground rules are established.
Day-to-day matters like schedules and finances can be worked out together. Keep things practical instead of dragging up old arguments that won’t help anyone move forward.
When collaborative divorce is chosen, maintaining civility afterward becomes easier. The process teaches conflict resolution skills that serve well long after papers get signed. Children, finances, and peace of mind all benefit from taking this more respectful path forward.
When you utilize the Los Angeles Consensual Dispute Resolution Family Law Association, you can rest easier because you will know that when your divorce is finalized, each party involved, including your children, will be better prepared to face the future with confidence.
Contact us today to learn more about how our members at the LACFLA can assist you in resolving your divorce in a mutually amicable manner.
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.