How to Handle a Divorce When You’re Still in Love with Your Partner

When your spouse has asked for a divorce, but you are still in love with them, it can be a process that will take time, grace, and patience for yourself. You will experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, grief, loneliness and self-doubt. It can cut like a knife to know that the person you married is no longer in love with you, like you are with them.

But along the divorce journey, you see that one-way love in a marriage is not emotionally healthy. You can begin to close that chapter or write a new book about your life. Here are some suggestions we offer our clients who are in this position:

• Accept and acknowledge your feelings – know that this is common, but there is hope to move forward
• Allow yourself to feel your feelings
• Surround yourself with people who are not judgmental
• Change your thought process – let go of “I still love them” and replace it with finding joy moving forward without the love from your ex
• Do not cyber stalk them online – this only prolongs the pain of letting go – you are enough!
• Don’t use your kids as pawns to help keep your love alive
• Allow yourself to realize you can move forward without them loving you
• Spend time getting to know yourself, who you are, and what you want to be without your spouse’s love
• Remember that moving forward does not equal finding a new love
• Healing takes time, and if you need professional mental health counseling, reach out to your mental health specialist who is versed in divorces

When you utilize the Los Angeles Consensual Dispute Resolution Family Law Association, you can rest easier because you will know that when your divorce is finalized, each party involved, including your children, will be better prepared to face the future with confidence.

Call us today if you would like to learn more about how our members at the LACFLA can help you work through the emotions and feelings divorce often brings.

Note: This information is general and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health, or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.