How to Survive the Holidays During a Divorce?
Some couples going through a divorce often find flash points about how they will celebrate the holidays, especially when children are involved. It is best to work through your holiday plans ahead of time to avoid last-minute, highly emotional issues.
Here are a few tips we share with our clients on how to survive the holidays during their divorce process:
- Be kind to yourself
- Let go of the “perfectness” for your holidays – life isn’t perfectly staged
- Don’t speak judgmentally about your spouse
- Start new traditions with your children – make good memories – hint – it’s not found in the grand gesture types of activities – it’s in the quiet moments
- When possible, attend a family event together with your children and ex – unity during the holidays is very healing
- Don’t play the “keep up with ex” game, always one-upping each other with gifts
- Children don’t want your high-end trinkets, they want your high-end time without distractions and distress
- Next summer work through the holiday schedule during that time – it’s less stressful when you do it well in advance
- Surround yourself with supportive friends and family – they will lift your holiday spirits
When you and your spouse work through the collaborative divorce process, you will be paired with a team of divorce experts whose main goal is to help you divorce amicably in a way that can keep your family intact and develop a custody and co-parenting plan that is beneficial to each spouse.
When you utilize the experts in the Los Angeles Collaborative Family Law Association, you can let down your anxiety and stress because you will know that when your divorce is finalized, each party involved, including your children, will be ready to face the future with confidence.
Call us today if you would like to learn more about how our Los Angeles Collaborative Family Law Association members can help you and your family through your divorce!
Note: This information is general in nature and should not be construed as legal/financial/tax/or mental health advice. You should work with your attorney, financial, mental health or tax professional to determine what will work best for your situation.